The title of my post must have made it amply clear that I hate free advice. The fact that most free advice is just common sense makes it even more irritating and frustrating. The whole thing makes one feel like they are too stupid to figure out a matter of simple logic.
Incidentally, the other day, I was sitting and complaining to my friend about a meddling neighbour of ours who cannot seem to mind his own business. Lo and behold, my friend’s neighbour comes up and starts dispensing free advice about being patient and tolerant. She tells me that there is no point in arguing with a stupid person and I almost blurted out, “I know aunty, that’s why I am not replying to you.” She literally gave a detailed reenactment of meddling neighbours and proved the reason for my rant.
I might sound like a rude and arrogant person right now but think about it. Most of the time, when a person is ranting, they are just letting out their emotions. We sit down with our friends to rant about the problems in our lives, we are not looking for solutions. We are just venting out emotions and frustration. At such a time, when someone gives unsolicited advice, it only fuels our anger more.
The next time you hear a person telling you their problems, just listen to them. Don’t try to give advice. Many of us are not clueless about how to handle our life. We are just looking for someone to listen, someplace where we can speak our mind out loud so that we can declutter our thoughts. I, luckily have my blog to declutter my mind. Every once in a while, I pen down all the things that I want to say out loud and post a ranting article.